You like to be the center of attention
“Narcissists dominate conversations,” says psychotherapist Joseph Brugo, PhD, the author of The Narcissist You Know ($25; amazon.com). “They feel compelled to talk about themselves, and they exaggerate their accomplishments.” You might find yourself embellishing your stories, spinning them to impress your audience. You paint yourself as the boss’s most trusted advisor, the most flexibly yogi in your class, the most popular neighbor on the block. These fabrications are easy to excuse as little white lies that help you tell a better tale. But really they serve a riskier purpose: to shore up an idealized version of yourself that distracts you from the intolerable fear that you are actually not good enough.