Your friends and family members probably mean well. They simply don’t understand the depth of social anxiety. It is, unfortunately, more detrimental when it is your therapist or psychologist who is offering these platitudes. Similar to the general population, many therapists who claim to treat social anxiety do not fully understand the disorder. This is extremely frustrating for the client. It can increase feelings of hopelessness and helplessness.
Treatment for social anxiety must be done the right way, in the right order, starting from square one. It isn’t “just do it”. It doesn’t begin with “don’t worry”. It doesn’t involve flooding the person. After all, a person with social anxiety faces their fears every day. If simply facing fears is a path to overcoming social anxiety, we’d never have social anxiety to begin with.