6. Realize Your Partner May Have Been Abused
People who have been abused or neglected as children are at higher risk for developing BPD.
Because the behaviors of a person with BPD are so outrageous at times, it’s very easy to call it quits or blame the person with BPD. It would be like faulting a person for getting cancer.
However, this is not a reason to allow the person you love with BPD to manipulate or abuse you. Still set your limits and stick to them, but in a loving and nonjudgmental way. Also, don’t take their outrageous behaviors personally. These are the emotional issues of your loved one.
7. Learn About BPD
One of the ways you can maintain a relationship with your loved one is to educate yourself about the disorder so you can understand your loved one’s behaviors. People with BPD will often attack you aggressively or get highly defensive, and people often feel like they are dragged to extremes as they are manipulated and guilted into different emotional states and actions they don’t feel comfortable doing.
Learning about the disorder will help you understand how your loved one experiences things. Realizing that your loved one has a completely different emotional perspective will help you protect yourself and stick to boundaries.