3. Encourage Responsibility
Allowing your loved one to face the consequences of their choices helps them to gain a little more control. It also helps to take the pressure off of you, which you’ll need more than you may realize. If your loved one smashes up a car, it’s not your responsibility to take the blame.
4. Offer Protection
You will need to protect several people in a BPD relationship — yourself, your loved one, family members, or random people — from occasional outbursts. This includes financial, emotional, and physical protection. By placing restrictions on bank accounts and educating other family members (especially children) on the condition, you can save yourself and others from a world of hurt.