Whether your daughter says, “Mom, you never do anything for me!” as you’re en route to the store to buy her more soccer equipment, or she insists she shouldn’t ever have to clean the bathroom because it’s not her job, dealing with a narcissistic teenage daughter can be tough.
If your teenage daughter is a bit self-absorbed, you’re not alone. But rest assured, her insistence that she’s the center of the universe doesn’t necessarily reflect upon your parenting practice.
Instead, the idea that the world—and everyone in it—revolves around her is just a phase. Over time, you’ll likely see signs that your teen is able to look outside herself and consider other people’s feelings more often.
Being Narcissistic Can Be a Normal Part of Teen Development
The term narcissist is usually used to describe someone who is a bit vain, as opposed to someone who has narcissistic personality disorder, a diagnosable condition.
People with narcissistic personality disorder experience difficulty functioning. They struggle to maintain healthy relationships and their education and employment are affected.
It’s estimated that about 6 percent of the adult population may have narcissistic personality disorder. But it’s rarely diagnosed before the age of 18 and it’s unlikely a little self-centered behavior from your teen is a sign of a bigger problem.
In fact, being egocentric is part of normal teenage development. It helps them separate from their families a bit and assists them in forming their own unique identities. Egocentric thinking and self-centeredness usually start to taper off by about age 15 or 16.
So while you get through this stage, there are steps you can take to help you deal with a narcissistic teenage daughter. These strategies can help you cope while also helping your daughter realize that the earth doesn’t revolve around her.