Six: Maintain or Re-establish Your Independence
One of the first things that the narcissist will try to remove from your life is any sense of independence. It’s important that your retain this or re-establish it if you’ve let it go. Take an afternoon and go do something for yourself, take a class, or get a part-time job if you are a stay at home mom.
Do what you need to do to make yourself feel fulfilled and happy.
Seven: Don’t Victim Blame
It’s not your fault, period.
Sometimes we get in the habit of blaming ourselves for something the narcissist has done. Don’t fall into that trap. Victim blaming is a nasty habit some people have picked up in order to give themselves the false sense that if they do everything right they’ll never become a victim – nothing could be further from the truth.
Narcissists will always create drama, they will always blame someone else for what they do, and they will always try to convince other people that the fault is someone else’s’. They may even take partial blame if it means that they can shift it to someone else more easily.
Eight: Don’t Trust a Word They Say
Narcissists are so comfortable lying that they lie about things they have no reason to lie about. If you ask them what color their socks are they’ll tell you pink when it is obvious to everyone that the socks are blue. Lying and deception are their primary languages.
Always take a look at check stubs and receipts and check the date to make sure they are the right ones. Surviving a narcissist means watching out for yourself and making sure that you do not become the victim of another one of his deceptions.
You Can Survive a Narcissistic Relationship
You can survive a narcissistic relationship as long as your remember that such relationships are toxic and you can’t treat the narcissist like the nice guy down the street. Keep your wits about you and you’ll do fine.
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