Typically speaking, narcissists are not people you should seek to be associating with. Anyone who does is likely to sustain emotional – and sometimes physical – harm that they may never fully recover from.
You might not realize it, but Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is actually a fairly common diagnosis. A 2008 study in the US of more than 34,000 adults, concluded that as many as 6.2% of the adult population are sufferers of this disorder.
With narcissism being so prevalent in society, there is a good chance that you have encountered one or many in your life (and that you will encounter more in the future). You may not always be able to spot them, however, because of their ability to mask the more malevolent aspects of their personality. They often come across as quite charming and friendly people.
That being said, when you have identified narcissism in an individual, and you are wondering how to deal with a narcissist, there is only one sure-fire way to prevent any further hurt on your part.
If you want to avoid getting tangled up with a narcissist; if you want to dodge the mental, emotional, and physical harm that comes from dealing with one, then you have no choice but to refuse to engage with them on any level.
To reiterate this crucial point: the only way to effectively deal with a narcissist is to not deal with them at all.
You must put as much distance as you can between them and you if you want to prevent their maleficent influence from seeping into your life. You must break all ties, stop all communication, and eliminate as many (preferably all) of the ways that your paths may cross.
It may sound like an extreme solution, particularly if you haven’t yet experienced the full spectrum of narcissistic behaviors, but no other method is guaranteed to result in your freedom from their control.
Here are the two primary reasons why a full and total blockade is so necessary when dealing with a narcissist.