A narcissist will probably remain a narcissist until their dying day because they are simply unable to see anything wrong with what they do. They do not have the necessary powers of self-assessment and self-reflection to realize that their behavior is not standard and not acceptable.
What’s more, if you have some sort of faith that you may somehow be able to help the narcissist change, you are mistaken. Your role in the whole spectacle is nothing more than a supplier.
A narcissist is only capable of changing when they are able to look at themselves from an external viewpoint, and this ability to observe as a third party is beyond their capacity to understand.
You should also consider the possibility that your desire to help them is not rooted in their behavior, but in your own personality and needs. Such a discussion is beyond the remit of this article, but suffice to say that you might be drawn to narcissists almost as much as they are to you. Just another reason to steer well clear of them.
Why Complete Separation Works
So far we’ve talked about the two main reasons why you should cut a narcissist out of your life completely, but why is it so effective?
The answer is simple and it comes back to the comparison between a narcissist seeking their supply and an addict seeking theirs. If you cease to be a source of supply, a narcissist will have no choice but to look for it elsewhere since they are not willing to risk withdrawal for too long.
It is a sad state of affairs, but in all likelihood, if you deny them what they need, a narcissist will be forced to find someone or something else to provide it for them.
While they may try, again and again, to lure you back into being a source of supply, eventually they will seek to devalue you in their minds and move on to more willing targets.