3. Maybe things will change one day. In the meantime, I just want his/her love to keep soothing me.
I don’t think I need to explain that one much further. It is basically the choice to put up with an unhealthy relationship and settle for crumbs of “love” here and there, because you believe that’s all the love you can get (or deserve). It is the passive acceptance of what hurts you. It is hurting yourself deliberately.
But once someone loves themselves and finally sees their own value, they will not tolerate anything less than relationships that reflect that same quality of love.