1) Doting turns into negating: You were once told that you are smart, attractive and fun, and your outgoing nature was a major turn-on, but now your narcissist sees you as the opposite. Your intelligence is now seen as cunning, your attractiveness is now overzealous, and your wit and humor are now vulgar. The very wonderful traits they once loved about you are now the “reason” for the relationship’s demise, and they remind you of it daily.
2) Your success becomes a threat: Perhaps you’ve been promoted or you won that award you’ve been seeking, but instead of praise you’re blamed for working too hard or seeking too much attention. All of your accomplishments are deemed as threats to your partner’s very existence, because they know they can’t keep up with you. You also threaten their own spotlight of receiving praise and approval from others, so you will be told that your successes aren’t that great, so pipe down.