The truth is that Matt wasn’t wasting my time. I still had my time.
He wasn’t refusing my help. He just couldn’t handle this particular responsibility.
He wasn’t being defiant either. In fact, his response had nothing to do with me. He was simply postponing relief and prolonging his misery because he didn’t know how to make a different decision.
Change your response
The solution is to change the way you respond. Believe me, I know this is difficult. Sometimes it’s like pulling teeth to get an answer that contains some real information!
Instead of being frustrated, put yourself in your child’s shoes.
- Imagine what it must be like to know that you’re having a regular conversation but you can’t respond in a regular way.
- Imagine what it’s like to disappoint your parents, yet again.
- Imagine experiencing this for an extended period of time.