9 Signs How Narcissists Make Sure You Never Solve Problems In A Relationship

8. Excuses

Everyone messes up every now and then, but narcissists give flimsy excuses rather than actually following through with promises. When their actions don’t match up with their words, they shrug and say they weren’t really thinking about it. You’d be humiliated if you broke a promise, but they are emotionless and it simply isn’t a serious problem to them, even when you point out that they are destroying the all trust in your marriage and that the marriage can’t survive without trust. They know that, but it’s irrelevant, whereas once, it was extremely important to them…but that’s long gone. You are disappointed so frequently that you can’t feel relieved when they do something decent—they condition you to expect to be disappointed again and again, and you are. All happiness is temporary, and just a short reprieve before another inflicted hurt.

9. “What in the world just happened?”

These conversations leave you drained. You may be left with an actual headache, but definitely a sense of total frustration. You will spend hours, even days, thinking over the argument you’ve just had. You’ll feel as if you exhausted all of your emotional energy to accomplish absolutely nothing. Even if you have well thought out arguments in your head, you can never respond to all the deflections, accusations, personal attacks, and asides that make your points get lost and become irrelevant, so you try again and again to bring the conversation back on track. You will feel the need to defend yourself and much of the time is spent in this way. You can tell the narcissist isn’t really listening, they just want you to shut up so they can go back to doing the same thing and ignoring what you said. You’ll try to come up with a diplomatic solution, and you admit that you have been wrong at times.

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