If they’re getting too discouraged trying to do something, they might be able to tell themselves, “OK, that doesn’t look like it’s going to work. I’ll try again or will try to find a better way to deal with it.”
Kids with ADHD are slower to develop those processes (and many other aspects of their executive functions). It takes longer for them to gain the ability to calm down and get perspective. So they’re more likely to get too wrapped up in their own emotions.
As a result, they may:
- Be overwhelmed with discouragement, frustration or anger
- Be too fearful to begin tasks
- Give up too quickly on whatever they’re doing
- Be reluctant to get started on something they ought to be doing
- Avoid interacting with others
In other words, their immediate emotion of the moment takes over all of their thinking.