ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) isn’t funny or cute or quirky like it’s often portrayed. It’s not just a case of being distracted or antsy. It’s a serious condition that can make life extremely difficult. Being in a relationship with someone with ADHD is both wonderful and challenging, but if you want to have any chance of making it work past the honeymoon stage, you need some serious education. Otherwise you’ll make life much more difficult than it has to be, and for someone who’s life is already more difficult than it has to be, that’s akin to setting their hair on fire and asking them why they’re so hot. Don’t set our hair on fire.
I feel like I’m uniquely qualified to talk about this. Not only have I had years of training and on-the-job experience with healthy relationships as both a Domestic Violence Victim Advocate and Planned Parenthood Certified Responsible Sexuality Educator, but I’ve also got a raging case of Adult ADHD. And it’s been a whirlwind learning experience for my spouse. Luckily, though, I have distilled the best of that education here, so you can avoid (or better deal with) some of the hurdles many couples with ADHD face.