7. …You have to throw ‘should’ out the door when having a relationship with bipolar. You ‘shouldn’t’ have to be sad a lot, right? Well, nobody wants to feel sad. People with cancer, pain disorders, lost jobs and broken hearts ‘shouldn’t’ have to suffer either. But we all do. When you love someone with bipolar, you have to stop listening to the shoulds and think about what really IS and what works for you. If helping your partner manage their medications makes you feel better and keeps them more balanced, great. If it makes you feel resentful and stressed out and your partner feel hen-pecked, then don’t do it!