Insincere flattery is also something that hurts a narcissist. Deep down, narcissists lack well-grounded self-esteem.
Because of this, they need credibility in the compliments that they receive. Anything that comes across as being fake can be very hurtful.
How to Talk to a Narcissist
Talking to a narcissist requires patience, tolerance, and focus if you want to maintain a semblance of a positive relationship with him or her.
Having patience will let you remain in the conversation when others may drop out. Being able to tolerate the conversation will help you overlook the narcissist’s selfishness and arrogance.
If you stay focused, you will be able to remember what the narcissist wants and what your objectives are in the conversation.
Talking to a narcissist may not be comfortable, but you can still carry on a decent conversation and even form a friendship — although it won’t be a deep friendship.
The first thing to remember is to limit your expectations and realize your role in the conversation is to be supportive and recognize what you are dealing with.
You also have to be willing to listen carefully and offer signals of positive recognition. If possible, be genuine and sincere in your acknowledgment of this person.