Or, on the flip side of that, you may find it rude when someone that you’ve made a lunch date with spends a large amount of time texting on their phone. You’d want to explain to them that you would prefer when the two of you are together, they try to be more present with you by spending less time on their phone. After all, if you have made special arrangements to meet with them, they should recognize that your time is valuable, and if they are going to continually text other people while you’re with them, it defeats the whole purpose of your spending time together.
Determining your personal boundaries is all about honing in on your feelings and honoring them.
Personal boundaries generally cover seven areas:
Emotional – Emotional boundaries are violated when someone criticizes, belittles, or invalidates your feelings.
Physical – Physical boundaries may be violated if someone touches you in ways that make you feel uncomfortable, or when they invade your personal space, such as grabbing your cell phone and checking your call history.
Sexual – Sexual boundaries can be violated with unwanted sexual touch, pressure to engage in sexual acts, staring, or uninvited sexual comments. For example, a sexual boundary violation might involve a new date asking about your sexual preferences or history when you barely know them.