Someone with Borderline Personality loves you — Here are 6 ways to love them back.
If you feel like one moment your partner loves and adores you and the next they’re verbally abusing and abandoning you for no reason, your partner more than likely has borderline personality disorder (BPD). Though it’s not an extremely common disorder, it’s found in approximately 3.2 million adults in the United States alone, primarily young women. The disorder is challenging, to say the least, and it makes holding together a stable relationship seem unattainable. But, it’s not impossible!
BPD is an emotional disorder characterized by mood swings and instability. “The symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder are varied and complex, but the common thread is that everyday life feels impossible to deal with,” reports this BPD article from Clearview Women’s Center, a clinic that specializes in BPD and other emotional disorders. “For people with BPD, it can be difficult to sustain relationships, maintain a healthy self-image and manage anger.”
The blog post also identifies a tendency to engage in damaging behaviors, including substance abuse and self-harm. Other symptoms include unstable interpersonal relationships, feelings of hopelessness, rapid changes in mood, issues with abandonment, dissociative or paranoid symptoms, and feelings of emptiness.
With all of those symptoms driving a wedge through your relationship, it’s clear how difficult it can seem for a relationship to thrive. If you love someone with borderline personality disorder, use these tips to help make your relationship work.